Recently, I was scrolling through Instagram and saw several posts about relationships…..or more specifically, women’s feelings on relationships and men. I admit, some of them are relatable and funny, but more often than not, I find them to be a bit degrading.
The posts in question often relate back to the book ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’ or make guys look like dogs, idiots and pieces of garbage. For example, if a guy doesn’t contact you, he isn’t into you and doesn’t deserve your time. Or if he doesn’t do X, then he isn’t worth it. If he can’t see you, then he is worthless and doesn’t care. These are only THREE examples I saw on my feed today alone. Yes, I’ve fallen prey to these posts and believed them at one time, and yes, after awhile you should know if it isn’t working out, but come on! There is a flip side to these thoughts and it doesn’t always mean the guy is in the wrong! (I am forever grateful for a certain friend of mine calling me out on my behavior and acting up due to these memes and this mentality.)
Did any of you ladies think that maybe he is busy? Maybe he is working? Maybe he is nervous about contacting you too much? There could be a million reasons why he isn’t contacting you or can’t see you. Like I said, if it’s a constant thing and he makes it obvious he isn’t interested, then that is one thing, but just because he doesn’t contact you first or can’t always see you, does NOT always mean he isn’t into you. He has a life, just like you. How would you feel if he did the same thing to you? Chances are, you wouldn’t, so how is your behavior any better? Also, would you do this to your family or other friends? No? Then why single out the guy?
Also….ladies, we have to do better when it comes to treating men. This doesn’t mean we cater to them or let them walk all over us, it means we give them the same respect and courtesy we want. We always say we want to empower and uplift each other, but why do we say such mean things and make memes that make men look this way? It’s not attractive and it’s hypocritical. We need to do better. Men are not dogs, they are humans and should be treated as such. These memes and way of thinking set us back and make us look immature and needy. Not every missed text of cancelled plan has to do with you. Like I said, there are some exceptions, but for the most part, it isn’t as bad as you think. Please do better and start treating your partner better without making assumptions.